Notre Dame Students Plan Walkout on Pence Speech


I read this article in the paper and I am very intrigued by this.  It has brought many questions to light for me that I would love some answers on.

Background:  Mike Pence is set to deliver the commencement speech for Notre Dame and receive his honorary degree and some students are planning to walk out in protest.  The organizers state this is being brought on by Pence’s stance on immigration and gay rights.  They state by Notre Dame giving the honorary degree, they are in fact supporting Pence’s beliefs.  They also state to “respectfully get up and walk out quietly”.  They are calling it Taking Back Our Commencement.

I find myself conflicted on this.  Students state that this is free speech and they can walk out in protest.  Isn’t it the same free speech that has allowed Pence and Trump to make the statements that they have made whether it’s on immigration or gay rights or abortion?  Does free speech only apply when we want it to or under all situations?

This is my thoughts:  I want to know what makes these people tick.  I want to understand where their mind is at that allows them to be OK with what they state to the American people.  The only way we can get any better is if we start to understand, not agree but to understand.  Maybe a better way is to say try to understand, listen and provide thought-provoking statements.  Would I understand any better if I walk out because someone has different beliefs than I do or could I potentially understand if I heard someone out and even challenged their thoughts?  The kids yes I said kids are walking out in “protest”, unable to hear someone and challenge them constructively and respectfully are the same ones that will lead this country in the future.  Doesn’t that remind you of someone…our President, our current leaders.  That is scary.  It’s like we are not learning anything with the situation that we are in.

I would much rather try to figure out Pence and Trump so I can try to prevent this in the future.  Again what makes them tick.  This country voted these people in.  Whether we like it or not, we did this to ourselves.  Now we have to figure out how to fix it.  Walking out, not listening, being angry, hurting others etc. doesn’t fix the problem.  It only makes it worse.

What am I missing here?  What are your thoughts?  Educate me to help me understand.  I am open to learning from both sides of the political spectrum.

Much Peace

It’s Been a Sh*t Show Day

I remember a friend of mine saying “this has just been a shit show” when she had one of those days.  I always chuckled until today.

It started when I got out of bed at 2:30 this morning to get ready for work.  I tripped over my feet and ran into the wall.  Then as I stumbled to the kitchen for coffee I smacked my knee on the corner of the door.  Finally I make it to the coffee and pour me what will surely be the greatest cup of coffee ever made.  Yea until the cup tipped over (I swear someone reached down and pushed it over) and went everywhere coffee shouldn’t go.

I clean the coffee up and pour another and finally make it to the table.  OK I can breathe now. The coffee was great and I went for another cup to give me the pep in my step that I need.  Ahhh perfect.

I head into the shower to an ice-cold water bath.  What the heck.  My fault I forgot to hit the hot water.  Nothing like ice-cold water to wake you up.

OK I’m now ready for work.  I grab my computer bag and head out the door.  The garage door won’t open.  Just great.  I had to squeeze in the window to the garage.  I didn’t realize that the power just went out.  I make it to the emergency button on the garage door that allows me to open it manually.  I pull the car out and realize the nice work clothes that I had on were now completely dirty.  Nope I’m not even changing.  I’m gonna own this dirt!

Drive into work in a downpour that I havent seen in years.  Pull into work an hour later and make a mad dash for the doors as we have no covered parking.  I make it in but now I’m drenched and dirty.  I look like a drown rat.

I walk into my bosses office dirty, soaked and bruised from my morning battle.  He looks at me and says “oh not a good morning”.  I say “it’s been a complete shit show”.

I thought this was a Monday instead of Tuesday.  Tuesdays should never be this bad.

Hoping yours was better.


Daily Post: Final


Last Word

The conversation goes like this…

Friend: Why do you always have to have the final word?

Me:  I don’t.

Friend:  Yes you do!

Me:  No really I don’t.

Friend:  You are doing it now.

Me:  Doing what?

Friend:  Having to have the final word.

Me:  I don’t know what you’re talking about.

Friend:  I’m getting frustrated.

Me:  Why?

Friend:  I give up.

Me:  On what?

Yes I have had that “talk”.  The one where you really are not trying to be a certain way, you just plain can’t stop.  I laugh about it after but during the conversation I am serious and truly don’t know what they are talking about.  Not until after and I process the conversation.

Then I swear I will make a conscious effort to be better.  Each and every time it happens I swear I’ll do better the next time.

I swear I will stop and not have to have the final word.  See I stopped:)

The below picture I thought was perfect to end this with.  I saw other pictures of gators doing crazy things in another blog and I was so fascinated but terrified at the same time.

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Daily Prompt: Pursue



I constantly forget my dream and instead I focus on the day-to-day items that I must get accomplished.  Work, pay bills, clean the house oh and I can’t forget to eat.

Somewhere between 2:30am and 9pm, I misplaced my dream.  The item I thought about as a child and just knew I would pursue it.  That is until I became an adult.  What happened during that dreaming mind and adulthood?  Life got so busy that I chose to not pursue my dreams anymore.  I seem to blame life…too busy, too tired, too whatever else I can think of.

Maybe the real reason is fear.  As a child you have no concept of fear or failure but as an adult all of that becomes reality.  The fear of judgement is so very strong.  Sometimes to strong to where it stops you dead in your tracks.  Then gradually you put those dreams in the back of your mind without even thinking that you are indeed doing it.  As an adult fear is crippling.

Maybe I need to try things that will get me back to that child mentality where fear didn’t exist.  Maybe then I can continue to pursue my dreams or am I doing that now by writing this down.  Maybe I am just tiptoeing in pursuing my dreams again.

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I can hope and dream.

Trump Fires James Comey

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Trump today fired FBI Director James Comey.  Well how interesting is this.  Trump wanted charges against Clinton for her use of a private email server, congratulated him when he stated Clinton was being investigated again with two weeks to go to the election and now a big turn of feelings as Comey stated the FBI was investigating Trump and the interference of Russia.  He fires Comey and mind you not even face to face.

I smell a big hairy rat.  Hmm who else does this behavior remind you of …Nixon?  Didn’t he decide to remove the Watergate  special prosecutor.  I wonder what happened to him.

Trump is playing a scary dangerous game.  The president has powers but outright control, I think not.  There are supposed to be rules in place but it seems like Trump is able to get away with anything he wants.  That alone proves this is strictly a Republican vs. Democrat item and not what is in this nations best interest.

I can say he is walking the impeachment line.  Putting his big toe right on that line.  Will he cross it, probably if he hasn’t already.

Healthcare, education, FBI, investigations, racism, hatred, building the wall, jailing innocent people based on immigration and of course you can’t forget jobs.

If “talking” doesn’t work then you threaten to get your way.  That’s what our country has now become.  We threaten companies and we threaten sanctuary cities.

We complain because companies get so many tax breaks and then we celebrate Trump, who of course is a CEO first, when he lowers the taxes again for companies with the ignorant statement of “this is very, very good”.  It will create jobs.

I am at a loss for what this country is becoming.  People in power bow down to Trump.  They know if they don’t, he will rip them apart via Twitter.  You know that app that the President of the United States uses to express his intelligence.  It’s really, really good and it’s very bad.  

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I wish us all peace during this tumultuous time.

Daily Prompt: Bitter- Grams Stroke


Wow, this is a perfect word for me today.  When my grandma had a stroke she was so very bitter.  She was bitter on her childhood, adulthood and the stroke.  I remember her saying “why did God do this to me”.  It was terribly sad to see, hear and experience.  She for a period of time hated everything and sometimes everyone.  My grandma, the strong, powerful woman was so very weak.  It pained me to go through this with her partly because I didn’t have the answers.

She was in the nursing home for 11 years and the first about 9 were, what we refer to, as the terrible years.  The stroke took away her ability to walk and the use one of her arms and some of the memory but she remembered things of her childhood.  These were horrible things.  Things I already knew but wish she would have forgotten.  My grandma ran away from home when she was 13 and never went back.  Very traumatic childhood and that’s an understatement.

The stroke intensified all her feelings including the bitterness.  I remember telling my mom I never want to be a bitter person, how do I make that not happen.  She just squeezed my hand and said we needed to pray.  To say I was scared doesn’t do it justice.  I still am.  I worry about that and try my best to pray and look for guidance.

The last couple of years were better as she came to terms with her past, went to church in the nursing home and began to forgive.  I still knew she wanted to die but she didn’t ask us to do it anymore.  She just lived each day the best she could.  This is not to say there were not hard times but it was better.  Then magically she started the process to leave this earth.  She was put on hospice and just when we thought it couldn’t go any longer, she opened her eyes and started talking.  Just as fast as that happened, it was over and she just slept.  One night she said “look at all the people over there”.  She saw her mom who after many years came to live with her and came with only the house coat and slippers that she wore.  My gram bought her new clothes and she passed away in her favorite chair in my grams house.  She saw her mom.  I believe they were there to guide her “home”.

My grandma passed away on May 2nd.  I swear every wrinkle was gone out of her face and I have never in my life seen that level of peace on my grams face.

The bitterness she felt and displayed was justified based on her past but it hurt her too.  I was born on her birthday, October 2nd.  We celebrated it every year together.  I was her mini-me.  I know she wouldn’t want me to be bitter but sometimes it is so very hard not to be.  I miss her dearly and so wish she didn’t have to go through all of that.

I guess I need to pray about it again and continue to do that until I am comfortable again.

A perfect word for me today.

Much Peace.

“13 Reasons Why” Copycats?

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The latest talk is anything to do with 13 Reasons Why.  For those that have not heard, this is a movie about Hannah Baker who left behind cassette tapes explaining 13 reasons  why she took her own life.  This was produced by Selena Gomez who has said she stayed true to the book and initially was only one “season” on Netflix.  Now she states that season 2 has been announced.  Millions watched and this is the talk so I can imagine the money is coming in.  On Twitter it stated from “13 Reasons Why…Their story isn’t over.  Season 2 of #13ReasonsWhy is coming”.

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I guess nothing is off-limits for the right amount of money.

Many are coming out against this show because it will promote copycats.  Physiologist, educators and parents have stated this has the potential to glamorize suicide and will lead to others taking their life as well.  Primarily those that are impressionable.

I am torn.  I believe the story should be told but ONCE not multiple seasons.  I currently believe this was only done for the amount of money this is bringing in.  Do I think their could be copycats, yes I do but I also believe if it wasn’t this show then it would be something else that might “trigger” that person.

13 Reasons Why gave the impression that there was only 13 reason, cut and dry.  Unfortunately it is so much deeper than that.  Depression is a multi-faceted thing.  It is not a one stop shop meaning one treatment doesn’t work for all.  Every single person is different, unique.  These 13 reasons were hers and the next person that takes their life will have another 13 reasons why that pertains to them.

When people are in a deep state of depression especially young people, whose brains are not fully developed, it is a maddening and frightening place to be.  They will make a rash decision that could hurt them the rest of their lives or worse end their life.  They don’t understand that certain things are permanent.

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Is the answer to sit with them and watch this graphic show to drill into their heads that suicide isn’t easy and the remaining people also suffer greatly or is it to always have the lines of communication open so people are comfortable coming to you for help.

Again one answer won’t fit everyone.  We have to have many answers and we have to more importantly listen when they do come without judgement period.

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